Healing Inner Conflict (H.I.C.)

Specific results by understanding where our operating systems come from and learning to be able to intervene when we are triggered.

HIC is a simple and effective way to begin to understand the four mechanics of why we do what we do, internally or externally … especially when it doesn’t make any sense in present moment context, like hurting the ones we love. These inner or outer behaviours like criticism, name calling etc are usually very disturbing both to ourselves and when we are like that with others. These disturbances are signals of healing trying to happen. In other words, not something going wrong, rather something trying to go right.

Using the HIC  Eight floor card template, I can help you understand what all the different parts of you are doing so that you can get a handle on what is happening in present moment context and what is happening internally that usually only makes sense in an early childhood context. These are moments when you get triggered. Being able to intervene when you are triggered is what allows you to change the way you think, feel and act.sh.

All of the methods used in HIC are based on the simplicity of the natural world. In the same way that there are developmental stages in the life cycle, so too the four most common disturbing internal mechanisms match these stages.

Child mechanism  an internal override of unique expression.
Adolescent mechanism an attempt to override Externally.
Adult mechanism an override of the  Adolescent Mechanism.
Self-Medication/Distraction an attempt to override seemingly overwhelming feelings.

Once you begin to notice how these mechanisms work, you can change them.